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5 Months before the Wedding

If you plan on having your wedding bands engraved, now is the time! This way you can be sure they are ready for the ceremony and it is one less thing you have to worry about at the last minute.

Your planner may offer honeymoon planning packages which is helpful if you find it stressful to plan a honeymoon while simultaneously planning your wedding. Choose your destination, book your flight and hotel, and arrange for any travel documentation (passports, blood work) you may need ahead of time.

Whether you choose to rent the formalwear or buy it, have all the men (groom, groomsmen, fathers) get their attire from the same shop. If some attendants are out of town, have them send measurements to the shop.

This includes anything you may need to rent (renting instead of buying can save a lot in your budget) such as tables, chairs, place settings, lighting and sound equipment, linens, and décor. Find out what your venues provide or offer to rent because this will save you time and delivery fees. You caterer and planner may offer various rentals as well.

This includes all of the pieces of invitations, place cards, menu cards, thank you cards, ceremony programs, rehearsal invitations, the options are quite extensive if you have the budget. Your stationary should match your wedding style feature your colors if possible.

4 Months before the Wedding

Now is the time to review your budget to ensure you are still on track. Keep your planner up to date with where you are in the planning process and ask for their help and professional advice.

Narrow down the guest lists you have been working on as a couple. You should have ordered your stationary already but expect to invite at least 10% more than your anticipated head count. 10-20% of invitees my send their regrets.

By now you should know exactly what you want to include in your menu and have an estimated cost per head from your caterer.

If you did not arrange to have maps printed with your stationary, take time to prepare some information about the area as well as detailed to the ceremony and reception sites for your out of town guests. Consider putting some of this information on your wedsite for guest to prepare in advance and prepare for local activities while the wedding party gets ready. You should include printed copies in your welcome bags.

Finalize cake plans with your baker. Include cake flavor and design and any other special requests, If you plan on having a grooms cake order it now.


If you did not book a bridal suite in a room block, you may want to consider booking a place to get ready on the day of the wedding. Your venue may provide a space for wedding day preparations as well.

3 Months before the Wedding

You should mail your invitations 3 months before the wedding. Budget time prior to this point if you plan on hand addressing the envelopes and assembling them yourselves. You could consider booking a calligrapher to address them for you if your budget allows.

Browse some portfolios and ask friends who were recently married who did their hair and makeup. You can set up a consultation for a hair stylist and makeup artist (some consultants will do both) and confirm your booking for the day of your wedding.

Confirm booking at the rehearsal dinner site and finalize the menu with the caterer. You may need to arrange for rentals such as linens and dinnerware for the rehearsal as well.

Finalize your song choices with your band or DJ

Make an appointment with your florist to finalize flower choice and number of arrangements. Arrange for delivery on wedding day.

Now is a good time to check requirements for a marriage license in your area. You may need to go to a doctor for a physical or blood test.

If you have not already make any arrangements necessary for travel to your honeymoon destination including flights, lodging, and travel documents.

2 Months before the Wedding

Confirm contracts and appointments for every vendor you have hired for your wedding day. Be sure to double check exact date and time of deliveries so you can plan accordingly. Check that you are on time with payments.

Your RSVPs and regrets will begin to return, as they do you should begin recording them for your final guest count.

Prepare printed lists of the name of every vendor with the business name, the name of the person in contact, the service provided, and contact information. Give this list along with a detailed itinerary of the wedding weekend to your planner (if you hired a full-service planner, they will so all of this for you), your family, and the bridal party. Make sure each vendor has the name and contact information of the person.

7 Weeks before the Wedding


Meet with your planner to make sure you’re still on track in the planning process.

If you choose to have formal bridal portraits taken, make an appointment to do so now.

6 Weeks before the Wedding




Arrange for alterations

There is no limit to what you can give your guests as favors. Choose something that matches your wedding style.

Choose a keepsake gift to give your wedding attendants, traditionally something personal or engraved.

These items include a guestbook, pen, cake knife, toasting glasses, a bridal garter. Some of these items you can rent.

Make appointments with your hair stylist and makeup artist at the same time if they are not the same person. Have some idea of how you would like to be styled but be open to suggestions as they are the professionals. This is a dry run for how you will look on your wedding day, so make sure you are happy with the results.

If you can, have all of your attendants bring their accessories together at the same time so that if you veto one accessory, there will be examples of another that you would approve. If you cannot get together, have everyone send you photos. Keep in mind pictures can distort color.

Confirm your wedding date with your officiant and go through the ceremony together. Let them know who will be speaking and any traditions you want included in your ceremony.

You can chose to have these printed or calligraphed.

This is optional.

3 Weeks before the Wedding

Apply for your marriage license (a good job for the groom)

Your photographer can offer guidance or have packages available

Include any specific shots you want included and any other special requests


Confirm your flower order with your florist. Now is the time for any last minute changes. Include your must have flowers, acceptable substitutions, and flowers you specifically do not want (out of season flowers may hurt your budget)

Prepare thank you notes and arrange to mail them


Confirm flights and lodging accommodations

Confirm room arrangements for your out of town guests

Include maps and wedding information. Coordinate your welcome packages with your wedding style


If you choose to change your name, arrange to do so now

Arrange for either your planner or an attendant to mail your announcements if you plan on leaving for your honeymoon right away.

Make sure your maid of honor knows how to help you into your dress before you leave the shop.

Follow up with guest who have not responded to the invitation. You will want a guaranteed head count to provide to your caterer

This meeting is the time to make sure your planner is aware of all elements of your wedding day, especially if you are using a day of coordinator and have planned most of the wedding yourself. This will ensure smooth sailing on the big day.

1 Week before the Wedding



Make sure you are paid in full on all of the services that need payment before the day of. Double check the service confirmations now.

Prepare cash or check payments in sealed envelopes for the vendors who will need to be paid of on the day of the wedding. Address them and give them to your planner to take care of on the wedding day.

Optional, but a fun and nice gesture.

If you plan on having a bachelorette party, do not have it the night before the wedding! That does double for the groom and his bachelor party!



2 days before the Wedding

Check the weather forecast and make any necessary adjustments. Confirm rain site if you arranged for one.


1 day before the Wedding

Your planner should lead the rehearsal and walk through the plan for the big day. Make sure you and your groom as well as the wedding party know the game plan. Now is the time to make sure all questions are asked and answered.

If you plan on leaving for the honeymoon directly from the reception, place all honeymoon luggage in the car you will be driving and lock it.

You will want to eat something that will not affect the fit of your gown, but will last (include protein and bread items). You might be too busy or nervous to eat later. Make sure your planner has arranged to save a plate of each item served at the reception. You will miss some food served while you are having photos taken, and you will want to eat the wonderful meal you worked so hard to plan!

You will want to eat something that will not affect the fit of your gown, but will last (include protein and bread items). You might be too busy or nervous to eat later. Make sure your planner has arranged to save a plate of each item served at the reception. You will miss some food served while you are having photos taken, and you will want to eat the wonderful meal you worked so hard to plan!

Relax, you have planned a beautiful event! Everything is in the hands of your planner and you can enjoy your wedding day!

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